“The fact that Rifkin gives a lot more than he receives is a key point: takers and matchers also give in the context of networks, but they tend to give strategically, with an expected personal return that exceeds or equals their contributions. When takers and matchers network, they tend to focus on who can help them in the near future, and this dictates what, where, and how they give. Their actions tend to exploit a common practice in nearly all societies around the world, in which people typically subscribe to a norm of reciprocity: you scratch my back, I’ll scratch yours. If you help me, I’m indebted to you, and I feel obligated to repay.”
'Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success' Adam Grant
A lot of this book has a very businessy vocab, but so much of it is entirely applicable to people and relationships. Business is moving towards theories and frameworks that psychology has been using for years, and it feels a lot more comfortable for me to think of businesses like clusters and constellations of people than empty, unfeeling entities.
I’m working on condensing the core bits of this book, because I think, more than business strategy, the idea of being a ‘giver’ resonates with me as a set of values I’ve always admired in other people I love, but have never wholly embraced because of fear + vulnerability. (Being selfless and other-oriented means being vulnerable, but also brings a lot of strength and support. A thing I get intellectually, but have always had trouble putting into practice.)